by Jessica Davison
Please welcome Jessica Davison to NewGen Faith. Jessica has a Masters of Peacemaking and Conflict Studies from Fresno Pacific University. She lives in a small farming community in CA with her husband and daughter. She loves spending time in community, traveling and cooking. She is also passionate about pursuing peace and justice in relationships.
Family conflict. It’s something that not many of us want to deal with but something that affects all of us. There are many different levels of relationships and many times, we disregard the importance of our closest and longest relationships (family) and allow both small and large conflicts to ruin these connections.
At the end of the day, most of us come home to some sort of family dynamic. We are tired from being busy and want to relax. It is times like this when a statement such as “Can’t you get off the couch and help with the dishes? ” can turn into a heated argument. We would not allow the same comment from a friend or coworker to turn into an argument. Why, because we want others to like us, respect us and for others to think highly about us, we are on our best behavior. We take more caution in our responses. In the back of our minds, we think that our family has to always like us and so many times we don’t treat them with the kindness and love that they deserve.
Family conflict has existed throughout all of history. Throughout Scripture, there are many examples of family conflict. Some of these stories turn out well and some not so well. A great example family conflict that eventually turns out well is the story of Jacob and Esau. Jacob took his brother Esau’s birthright away from him, which was the culmination of many years of smaller conflicts. Jacob’s decision to do this then took years away from their relationship. Fear and anger ruled Jacob and Esau’s lives until circumstances brought them back together and their relationship was restored. My belief is that this story and many others are sprinkled throughout Scripture so that we can learn from them and implement these skills in our present day lives.
Conflict is inevitable. There is no way that we can avoid this part of life. So, we have to make the decision to rise above the feeling of anger and awkwardness and make a goal to restore the relationship that is broken. When dealing with conflict, remember to take time to examine all perspectives, take time to count to ten before reacting to others and above all to remember that God offers forgiveness to everyone and that is what we are instructed to do as well. Taking the time to work through and not avoid family conflict can forever change a family and it’s dynamic.
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